How to Flirt Online

Whether you're one of the 40 million people looking for love on a dating website or just chatting with a cute someone, make your messages must-reads!

You will need

  • A positive attitude
  • And confidence

Step 1 Be positive Be positive. The fastest way to end flirty banter is to be Debbie Downer.

Step 2 Be confident Sound confident–even if you’re not. People are attracted to self-assurance.

Step 3 Be funny Use humor. If witty repartee isn’t your strong suit, repeat something someone else said that you found funny, or share something amusing you read in the paper.

Step 4 Be brief Keep messages brief–you want to retain an aura of mystery.

Step 5 Avoid baring your soul Avoid intense, soul-baring discussions that might scare people off.

Step 6 Be observant Be observant about the details in their profile, and ask follow-up questions to things they mention in messages to you. It shows you’re sincerely interested–and not self-obsessed.

Step 7 Give compliments Dole out the compliments. Who doesn’t want to hear nice things? If you saw them on a dating site, mention their impressive resume. If you met in person, gush about something they said or did. But be sincere.

Step 8 Don't get discouraged Don’t get discouraged. You’re not going to be compatible with everyone. Cut your losses and move on to the next hottie.