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How to Build Your Self-Confidence

No matter who you are, a little self-confidence can go a long way toward making your dreams come true.


  • Step 1: Consider someone confident Think about someone who you feel radiates self-assuredness. Consider all of his or her traits and mannerisms, and then write down those that project confidence.
  • Step 2: List your positive traits List all of your positive attributes, both personal and professional. Maybe you’re a good listener or a dependable employee. Review your list a few times and give yourself a big pat on the back.
  • Step 3: Record yourself Set up a video camera and record yourself role-playing an entire situation that requires confidence. Focus on your role model and your personal strengths.
  • TIP: If you don’t have access to a video camera, stand in front of a full-length mirror and speak into a tape recorder.
  • Step 4: Review your performance Review your performance, starting with your posture to your gesture. Anxiety often comes through in non-verbal clues, like hand-wringing or slumped shoulders. Come up with ways to handle these habits.
  • Step 5: Listen to yourself Listen to your voice. Confident people speak at an audible level while those who speak in a hushed tone are perceived as insecure.
  • TIP: If you think you sound too stern, smile when speaking. Your voice will automatically take on a lighter tone.
  • Step 6: Watch what you say Pay attention to your choice of words. Replace wishy-washy terms like 'sort of' and 'maybe' with more definite words like 'certainly' and 'definitely.'
  • Step 7: Practice Reevaluate all of your observations and continue to practice being 'the new you.' Your confidence, as well as your communication skills and persuasiveness, will rapidly grow.
  • FACT: Eleanor Roosevelt said, 'You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.'

You Will Need

  • A role model who exudes confidence
  • A video camera
  • A pad and pen
  • A playful attitude
  • And a few positive thoughts
  • A full-length mirror
  • And a tape recorder

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