How to Convince Your Lover to Let You Videotape Your Lovemaking

Sex tapes aren’t just for celebrities anymore! But first you need to talk your camera-shy lover into participating.

Step 1: Pick a good time Wait for a good time to bring up the subject—like when your lover is feeling good about their body.
TIP: You can pave the way by complimenting their physical charms in the weeks leading up to The Talk.
Step 2: Address their concerns Respectfully listen to any reservations they have and address those concerns as best you can.
TIP: The most common fear about a sex tape is that it will fall into the wrong hands, so promise them complete ownership.
Step 3: Set ground rules Offer to set ground rules that might make them feel more comfortable, like dimming the lights or obscuring their face.
Step 4: Compromise Explore a compromise, like only certain acts will be taped.
Step 5: Negotiate See if you can make a deal with them—you’ll fulfill one of their fantasies if they’ll do this.
TIP: Don’t beg. It will make the idea of sex with you repulsive, never mind videotaped sex.
Step 6: Stay hopeful Stay hopeful and keep bringing it up. Don’t pester them, but in time they just might come to see things your way.
FACT: The late actor Bob Crane’s obsession with filming himself having sex is explored in the 2002 biographical movie Auto Focus.