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How to Pick Someone Up in a Bar

Think your stunning good looks are all the charm you need? Maybe, but having a plan of action doesn’t hurt.


  • Step 1: Approach the person Approach the person you want to pick up. Have good posture– your walk must convey confidence.
  • TIP: Read a newspaper before going out so you’ll have conversation topics ready, just in case.
  • Step 2: Introduce yourself Introduce yourself with a simple 'Hi.' Research shows it’s the most effective opening line.
  • Step 3: Focus on other person Keep the conversation focused on the other person; people love to talk about themselves.
  • TIP: Use the other person’s name. As communications legend Dale Carnegie once said, 'The sweetest sound in any language is a person’s name.'
  • Step 4: Keep things light Keep things light. Surveys show that people are drawn to a good sense of humor in a first encounter.
  • Step 5: Move on Gauge the person’s interest after a few minutes; if he or she keeps looking away or backing up, move on.
  • Step 6: Swap numbers Swap phone numbers. Of course, if you’re really hitting it off, you won’t need to.
  • FACT: Half of club-goers report having had a serious relationship with someone they met in a bar.

You Will Need

  • Confidence
  • And the ability to improvise

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