How to Deal with Friends Hating Your Significant Other

You simply adore your new amour! But your friends? Not so much. Find out what's really going on.

You will need

  • Introspection
  • Understanding
  • Diplomacy

Step 1 Quiz your pals Ask your friends to tell you exactly what it is they don’t like about your significant other. Make them give you specific examples of the behavior they don’t like.

Step 2 Be honest Be honest with yourself. Are their feelings at all valid? Do they not like the person you’re dating because he or she doesn’t treat you well, or is reckless in some way?

Step 3 Examine your own behavior Assuming there is no good reason why your friends hate your new love, examine your own behavior. Could your friends actually be annoyed with you for abandoning them, and your significant other is just taking the blame?

Step 4 Force them together Plan an event where everyone can get to know each other better. Maybe your friends just need to see for themselves that your significant other is truly great.

Step 5 Reassure them Reassure your friends that they are no less important to you now that you are in love. Tell them you are happy, and ask them to try to be happy for you.

Step 6 Make time for them Make time for your friends. One reason friends aren’t supportive when a member of the gang falls in love is because they fear losing their pal. Continue to make room for them in your life, and they just might come to accept who you’re dating.