- Step 1: Cut them some slack If your spouse is trying to find another job, don't expect them to start doing all the housework. Looking for a job, especially in a bad economy, can be a full-time job in itself.
- Step 2: But don't be a sap, either But don't cut them too much slack, either. If it becomes obvious your loved one is neither looking for a job nor pitching in with the kids or housework, it's time for a serious discussion.
- Step 3: Discuss expectations Discuss one another's expectations, preferably before tempers flare. Come to a mutually acceptable agreement on what housework or child care, if any, the out-of-work partner will assume until they find another job.
- Step 4: Treat your partner like an adult Don't subject them to a daily grilling on what they're doing to find work, or what they did all day while you were out. They are no doubt already feeling inadequate.
- Step 5: Be on the lookout Be on the lookout for signs of depression, like sleeping too much or not being able to sleep, or over- or undereating. If your partner turns to alcohol, drugs, porn, gambling, or other destructive behaviors, insist they get counseling.
- TIP: Men are particularly susceptible to depression after a job loss because much of their self-esteem is tied to their work.
- Step 6: Keep up their spirits Keep assuring them that you have complete faith in their ability to find another job. Most importantly, stay positive yourself.
- FACT: The American Time-Use Survey shows men tend to do less housework after they lose their job.
You Will Need
- A heart-to-heart