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How to Negotiate a Later Curfew

Is your curfew unreasonably early? Here's how to convince your parents to extend it.


  • Step 1: Step 1: Ask one or both of your parents to meet with you in private, away from any siblings
  • Step 2: Step 2: State your needs. Tell your parents that you would like a later curfew and give them a time you think is reasonable.
  • Step 3: Step 3: List reasons why you’re ready for a later curfew. Reasons could include that you are mature and responsible.
  • Step 4: Step 4: Provide evidence of your trustworthiness. Offer specific examples where you successfully handled responsibilities.
  • TIP: Evidence must be true. Lying costs credibility.
  • Step 5: Step 5: Listen to your parents’ concerns and don’t get upset. If you argue and yell at them they may accuse you of being immature and end the meeting.
  • TIP: When you are listening to your parents, take notes so you can process what they are saying after your meeting.
  • Step 6: Step 6: Make a counter-offer if your parents aren’t buying your argument, and ask if you may have a later curfew trial period, or suggest a time earlier than you originally requested. If you work with them, not against them, they’ll be more willing to agree.
  • FACT: The word curfew comes from the French couvre feu, or 'cover the fire,' which signaled that it was time to blow out lamps or put out the hearth fire and go to bed.

You Will Need

  • Talking points
  • Evidence
  • Counter-offers
  • Diplomacy
  • Patience
  • Paper and pencil (optional) (optional) (optional) (optional) (optional)

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