- Step 1: Accept the inevitable Accept that death is inevitable. Allow yourself to feel the pain knowing that the departed would not want you to suffer long.
- Step 2: Avoid big decisions Avoid making big decisions, except for those concerning arrangements for the person who has passed.
- Step 3: Lean on others Lean on others to provide what you cannot.
- Step 4: Read about grief Read about the stages of grief to alleviate fears that what you are feeling is unnatural. Don’t take misplaced anxiety or anger out on others.
- Step 5: Plan gatherings Plan for anniversaries, birthdays, and holidays, allowing family members to celebrate a life, using music, stories, or family traditions to provide comfort.
- Step 6: Care for yourself Care for yourself by maintaining a balanced diet and regular sleep. You may have lost energy and may have trouble concentrating.
- TIP: Take advantage of counseling resources available locally or go online to find out more.
- Step 7: Rejoin humanity Rejoin humanity in the weeks and months afterwards. Give yourself enough time to get up and running again.
- FACT: Did you know? The Victorians allowed two to four years to grieve after a death.
You Will Need
- An understanding of grief
- A balanced diet
- Counseling (optional)