- Step 1: Add it up Calculate how many hours a day you think about sex, look at porn, pursue sex, and/or have sex. If it’s more than a few hours a day, you may have a problem.
- Step 2: Examine its impact Examine the impact that sex is having on your life. If it has cost you your job, your significant other, and/or your last shred of dignity, it’s a problem.
- Step 3: Assess risks Determine if your behavior is putting you at risk. Have you ever worried that a conquest might: a) be using you, b) give you a STD, or c) strangle you? If yes, is this an occasional worry or a daily concern?
- TIP: Waking up naked in a stranger’s bed should not be a routine occurrence.
- Step 4: Tally your sexual partners Tally up your sexual partners. Signs of a problem—it’s over 100 and you’re neither a rock star nor a professional athlete.
- Step 5: Review your masturbatory habits Review your masturbatory habits. Is a day without self-gratification like a day without sunshine?
- TIP: If more than one friend has gently suggested you need help, you probably do.
- Step 6: Try to stop See if you can go without sex for a week. If you fail, or if your self-denial ends in a three-day catch-up orgy, seek help.
- FACT: Chronic insomnia can increase libido and lead to compulsive sexual behaviors.
You Will Need
- Brutal honesty