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How to Deal with a Deadbeat Son-in-Law

Turn lemons into lemonade by getting along with a deadbeat son-in-law – despite how you may feel about him.


  • Step 1: Empathize Try to empathize. Put yourself in his shoes without making excuses for him.
  • TIP: Trying to change him will make him defensive. The more you try, the less he will want to change.
  • Step 2: Support your daughter Be supportive of your daughter. If you criticize him to her, she will be forced to defend him and you will only push her away.
  • Step 3: Withdraw support Withdraw any financial support you provide. It may be difficult to see your daughter suffer, but enabling helps no one.
  • Step 4: Consider professional help Consider his mental state. He may be depressed and need psychological support. Discuss possible mental health options with him and your daughter.
  • FACT: Did you know? In ancient Babylon, in-laws gave their sons-in-law a month's worth of fermented honey drink, to drink after the wedding. This was their "honey month," hence, "honeymoon."

You Will Need

  • Empathy
  • Willpower
  • A psychologist

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