- Step 1: Know your subject Read all you can about alcoholism and co-dependency and talk to other alcoholics to understand the subject.
- Step 2: Confront your own problems Solve your personal problems and know your limits. Forego any desire to rescue people.
- TIP: Accept that most alcoholics do not fully recover. Love the person; hate the disease.
- Step 3: Plan an intervention Plan an intervention with family members but always in the presence of a therapist. The drinker must be sober.
- Step 4: Set boundaries Set clear boundaries, stating that to protect yourselves you expect action. Be ready to follow through on any consequence you set.
- Step 5: Suggest treatment Suggest counseling and treatment options that you have researched, all the way to providing the local Alcoholics Anonymous numbers. But do not make the call for them.
- Step 6: Be detached Remain detached, so that you can model the behavior you expect. Let the alcoholic face their consequences and never loan them money or indulge their excuses.
- TIP: Drinking is merely a symptom of larger problems that the drinking helps bury.
- Step 7: Join support organizations Join a support organization like Al-Anon to confront your own guilt and sense of responsibility. A supportive community strengthens you to grow healthy.
- FACT: Did you know? Over 18 million Americans struggle with alcohol abuse or dependence.
You Will Need
- Recovering alcoholic friends
- A therapist
- Counseling and treatment options
- Support organization