- Step 1: Encourage talking Encourage someone to talk about themselves by asking questions like, 'What do you do for a living?' or "What kinds of movies do you like?"
- TIP: People are flattered by someone's interest and like to talk about themselves.
- Step 2: Show interest Display an interest in a wide range of topics.
- Step 3: Listen quietly Listen quietly and maintain eye contact. The more trusted and sensitive their audience, the more willing people are to open up and engage.
- TIP: Avoid being intrusive, prying, or gossipy.
- Step 4: Respond enthusiastically Respond enthusiastically to comments to keep someone talking. Keep your enthusiasm sounds genuine.
- Step 5: Encourage further conversation Encourage further conversation by asking who, what, why, when, where, and how questions, like: 'What did you do?' and 'When was this?'
- TIP: Keep it low key, so it doesn't feel like you're interrogating.
- Step 6: Don't be afraid to admit your ignorance Don't be afraid to admit your ignorance when discussing a topic. That gives the other person an opportunity to show their knowledge of the subject.
- FACT: Did you know? Francis Ford Coppola’s 1974 film, The Conversation, lost the Oscar to his other nominated film that year, The Godfather, Part II.
You Will Need
- Listening skills
- Eye contact
- Open-ended questions