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How to Be Chivalrous

Some people say that chivalry is dead, but there are ways in today's world to bring it back to life.


  • Step 1: Be respectful Act respectfully toward women. Honor your word. Call when you say you will, arrive when you say you will, and follow the rules of basic courtesy.
  • TIP: Being chivalrous is not the same as sucking up.
  • Step 2: Holding doors Hold the door for a lady. It's the most basic expression of chivalry. Practice it with all women so that it becomes a matter of course and habit rather than a special gesture.
  • Step 3: Enter a room after a lady Enter a room behind a lady. Open the door, step aside, and allow her to enter a couple of steps before you.
  • Step 4: Offer her your coat or seat Offer her your coat if she's cold and your seat if she's standing. A gentleman should always offer his coat and seat to a lady.
  • TIP: Always offer your chivalrous service, but don't insist. The option to decline allows a lady more control. She may not want your coat or seat.
  • Step 5: Offer to pay for dinner Offer to pay for dinner on all occasions.
  • Step 6: Pull out a lady's chair Pull out a lady's chair when she's sitting down and hold it until she's seated. Never sit before the lady does. Always rise from your seat when the lady gets up. A gentleman should always rise when a lady enters or leaves the room.
  • Step 7: Do the small things Do small, nice things for a lady. These are the things they will appreciate the most. Much of chivalry is built around common sense.
  • Step 8: Never disrespect a lady Never be disrespectful. Do not gossip. Do not talk about her to her friends or yours, and never talk about her behind her back.
  • FACT: Did you know? The Code of Chivalry began in 14th-century England as a combination of military rules and Christian values.

You Will Need

  • Respect
  • Honor
  • Public situations
  • Social situations

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