- Step 1: Organize your thoughts Take time to organize your thoughts before telling them to someone else. You need to understand what you're feeling before you express it.
- TIP: Write down your thoughts in a notebook; it will help you sort out what is important.
- Step 2: Don't wait until you're fed up Talk out your feelings before you become too fed up with the issue. Excess anger will make it difficult to explain yourself.
- Step 3: Be specific Be specific. Refer to specific issues or events that have bothered you, and when and where they took place. A general statement won't be productive.
- Step 4: Describe the feeling Describe what you felt when the event occurred.
- TIP: Don't simply say that you're "angry" or "upset," but use as much detail as you can. This will help the other person better understand the issue.
- Step 5: Avoid blaming the other person Avoid blaming the other person. You don’t want them to become defensive. Talk about your reaction rather than about their mistake.
- FACT: Morris Albert's 1975 song "Feelings" made it to no. 6 on Billboard's Top 100.
You Will Need
- Friend or loved one
- Notebook (optional)