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How to Deal with a Toddler's Temper Tantrum

Patience is a key factor when taming an out-of-control toddler.


  • Step 1: Distract the child Distract the child from whatever's causing the frustration. Draw the child's attention to anything else – a toy, a book, or activity.
  • Step 2: Stay calm Remain calm and collected. Show the child you have control of the situation.
  • Step 3: Talk to the child Discuss the situation with the child. Show them you understand why they are upset.
  • TIP: If the child is older than three, ignore the tantrum and explain that you will listen when they can use a normal voice.
  • Step 4: Remove the child Remove the child from the scene, whether it's a family gathering, a shopping mall, or grocery store. Pick up the child and physically remove them to a different surrounding.
  • TIP: Reserve a time-out area in your home where the child will go to calm down.
  • Step 5: Be consistent Always be consistent with your actions. Never give in to an unruly child, or your child will soon rule your home.
  • FACT: As of 2008, spanking in public schools was still legal in 21 states and used frequently in 13.

You Will Need

  • A calm demeanor
  • Empathy
  • Patience
  • A "time-out" area (optional)

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