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How Not to Attend a Passover Seder

It’s one of the rituals of spring if you have a lot of Jewish friends: the annual seder invitation. Here's what not to do if you want to keep that friendship alive.


  • Step 1: Don’t arrive late Don’t arrive late. This is more than a dinner party—it’s a religious celebration with a sequence of rituals.
  • Step 2: Don’t bring a non-kosher gift Don’t bring a non-kosher gift for your hosts.
  • Step 3: Don’t wear inappropriate clothing Don’t wear inappropriate clothing or anything you wouldn’t wear to a religious celebration in your own home.
  • Step 4: Don't eat food before blessings Don’t eat any food before the ritual blessings are offered and your hosts have begun to eat.
  • Step 5: Don't bring your own reading material Don’t bring your own reading material in case you get bored.
  • Step 6: Don't refill your glass of wine Don’t refill your glass of wine other than at the specified moments.
  • Step 7: Don't announce extra cup Don’t announce that your host has mistakenly set an extra cup at the table.
  • Step 8: Don't ask hosts to watch "The Passion of Christ" Passover may be about community, but don’t ask your hosts if they want to watch The Passion of the Christ with you next weekend.
  • Step 9: Don't join in on Exodus story Don’t join in on the retelling of the Exodus story unless someone asks you to read.
  • Step 10: Send a note of apology If you’ve ignored any of these rules, DO send a note of apology.
  • FACT: Protesting that some of your best friends are Jewish will do nothing to mitigate any insults you have hurled at your hosts.

You Will Need

  • An unsuitable gift for the hosts
  • Inappropriate clothing
  • Cross necklace or other symbol of non-Jewish faith
  • Note of apology
  • Loaf of bread
  • Reading material

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