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How to Go on Your First Date

Follow this advice to make the most of your first date and increase your chances of a second.


  • Step 1: Ask permission Before you leave, ask your parents’ permission. Tell them where you are going and agree on a curfew.
  • TIP: Don’t be late. If you want to go out on a second date you will need your parents’ approval.
  • Step 2: Plan ahead Choose a location that allows you and your date to engage in conversation but also has an enjoyable atmosphere. If conversation is slow, events will spark discussion.
  • Step 3: Be yourself Be yourself – do not act, fake, or pretend to be someone you are not. Expressing sincerity and honesty is your best bet.
  • TIP: Don’t gossip about other people. Keep a positive attitude with the focus on you and your date.
  • Step 4: Ask questions about your date Ask your date questions to learn more about them and discover common interests. Listen to them attentively.
  • TIP: If you find that you are doing all of the listening don’t hesitate to politely interrupt with information about yourself.
  • Step 5: Do not abandon your principles Do not abandon your principles when it comes to kissing or sexual activity. Decide what feels right for you and set limits for yourself.
  • Step 6: Treat your date with respect Do not pressure your date to engage in activities that they are not comfortable with. Treat them with respect and you are more likely to get a second date.
  • FACT: Two percent of respondents to a New York survey said the best way to ask someone to go on a first date is by text message.

You Will Need

  • Permission
  • Destination
  • Sincerity
  • Questions
  • Principles
  • Respect

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