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How to Discuss Starting a Family with Your Partner

Starting a family is an important decision. Make sure your feelings are mutual by opening the lines of communication.


  • Step 1: Write down concerns Write down your thoughts about starting a family to get them organized before opening a dialogue.
  • Step 2: Talk Designate a time and place to have an uninterrupted conversation with your partner.
  • Step 3: Express your feelings Talk about how each of you feels about having children. Be honest about your concerns or fears.
  • Step 4: Look at goals Figure out what conditions need to exist before starting a family. Some priorities could include finishing school or starting a career.
  • TIP: Until you are ready to conceive, talk about what methods of contraception you will use.
  • Step 5: Discuss history Discuss any religious or cultural differences you may have.
  • Step 6: Look at finances Examine your finances. Discuss the steps you need to take to ensure a workable budget.
  • Step 7: Talk with your doctor Make an appointment with your doctor to discuss each other's lifestyle choices and family and medical histories. Talk about how to plan a healthy pregnancy.
  • FACT: In 2008, there were approximately 5.3 million stay-at-home moms, and approximately 140,000 stay-at-home dads.

You Will Need

  • Pen and paper
  • Honest discussion
  • Doctor

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