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How to Say I Love You for the First Time

If you get butterflies every time you see that special someone, learn how to tell them how you feel.


  • Step 1: Assess your relationship Assess your time together. Every relationship evolves differently, but it's best to wait at least two months before saying the "L" word.
  • Step 2: Plan ahead Think ahead to plan something special such as a night out, dinner at home, or ice cream in the park and seize the moment when it feels right -- but don't force it.
  • Step 3: Take a risk Rely on your inner strength and work up the courage to let the other person know how you feel -- and be prepared to hear that they might not feel the same way.
  • Step 4: Give the person time Give the other person time to adjust and think about it, and tell them directly to not answer until they are ready.
  • TIP: Be prepared to wait hours or even days for an answer. Don't rush the other person.
  • Step 5: Beware of digital traps Beware of using either e-mail or text messages to say "I love you" for the first time. While they may feel safer, they are too impersonal.
  • Step 6: Be creative Be creative when it comes to saying "I love you." Signs, notes, and other nonverbal cues can work wonderfully if you keep them personal and genuine.
  • FACT: One of the oldest Valentine's Day cards written in English dates back to 1477, over 500 years ago.

You Will Need

  • Forethought
  • Inner strength
  • Courage

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