- Step 1: Know the definition Know what a love addict is -- someone who has an unhealthy relationship with romantic love itself.
- Step 2: Admit your problem Admit that you're a love addict. It may sound like a cliche, but acknowledging your neediness, obsessions, and compulsions regarding romance is indeed the first step in getting over your love addiction.
- TIP: Levels of phenylethylamine, a brain chemical that produces feelings of euphoria, rises when we're newly infatuated.
- Step 3: Identify your type Identify the type of love addict you are. Some hang on to toxic relationships because they fear being alone, some only fall in love with people they can't have, and others flit from relationship to relationship because they're addicted to the excitement they feel at the beginning of a new romance.
- Step 4: Recognize healthy relationships Re-train yourself to recognize healthy relationships versus toxic ones. It's the only way to break the patterns that are preventing you from finding real love.
- Step 5: Face the pain Resolve to undergo whatever short-term pain is necessary -- ending an unhealthy relationship, letting go of a fantasy -- in order to find long-term happiness.
- Step 6: Don't do it alone Don't try to get over your love addiction alone. Find a therapist who specializes in the condition, or seek help through a support group.
- FACT: When people look at a photo of their romantic partner, the areas of the brain that are stimulated are the same ones that correspond to drug addiction.
You Will Need
- Therapy or support group