The number of adult kids moving back home has been rising since 1980. It can be a difficult situation, so everyone needs to be clear about their responsibilities.
Step 1: Work out arrangements Work out the spatial and financial arrangements ahead of time. Reduce tension by discussing mutual expectations, personal goals, and timelines.
Step 2: Re-purpose a room Re-purpose a room instead of encroaching on already utilized areas to accommodate everyone's need for personal space. Rent a storage space for your extra stuff instead of crowding your folks.
TIP: Be aware of an inclination to act like an adolescent again, expecting service from them that an adult should do for themselves.
Step 3: Follow their rules Consider that this is their home. Your guests have to follow the rules -- even curfews -- if that's what will make the arrangement work.
Step 4: Pay back Pay your parents back for their kindness by cleaning up after yourself, running errands, making repairs, mowing the lawn, and making dinner once in a while. Show maturity, independence, and a serious intention to find a place of your own as soon as possible.
Step 5: Split up chores Help create a chore chart to divide the labor among everyone. Essential duties like cleaning, laundry, and preparing meals take cooperation -- it's better to define responsibilities before resentments start.
Step 6: Get out sometimes Continue to have a social life. Hanging around the house all the time trying to entertain one another is asking for trouble. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.
Step 7: Work, save, go Maintain a busy, productive schedule. Find work, save money, and move on.
FACT: By 2008, 16.1 percent of the American population lived in multigenerational households, according to a Pew Research Center analysis of census data.