How to Give Words of Encouragement and Affirmation
Words are powerful and influence all aspects of our lives. Those specially chosen for encouragement and affirmation can elevate everyone's spirits, including your own.
Step 1: Affirm the present Speak encouragements and affirmations in the present tense, rather than the future. Positively hoping for something yet to come denies the good you experience now.
TIP: A Penn State study discovered we have many more negative words in our vocabulary than ones for positively identified emotions.
Step 2: Reconsider problems as opportunities Redefine problems as "challenges," or "opportunities." The attitude with which you approach conflict can change outcomes. Learn from mistakes instead of avoiding or regretting them.
Step 3: Choose phrases with intent Give phrases new intent by refusing to use "I can't," and saying instead, "I will." Replace the word "mistakes" with the phrase "life lessons" to combat past feelings of guilt and shame.
Step 4: Use honey, not vinegar Convert criticisms into encouragements. Eliminate absolutes like "always" and "never" from your vocabulary when describing unacceptable behavior. Recognize that no one is all bad or all good all the time.
Step 5: Believe and support Compliment someone to build their self-esteem, or just to show genuine appreciation of them. Believe what you are saying and convey your absolute support for their efforts.
TIP: Be careful: overdone praise, repeated frequently, may lose its value if it is a function of practiced and empty manners rather than a genuine, heartfelt affirmation.
Step 6: Repeat to believe Express short, specific affirmations, such as "I am a good person," passionately and repeatedly, to imprint them on your subconscious. You must feel with every affirmation that your visualized reality has been willed into existence. You can be a positive person and make the people around you positive, too.
FACT: The Harmonic Convergence, observed around the world on August 17, 1987, was a collective effort to welcome the new age of peace with the cleansing energy of prayer, song, meditation, dance, rituals, and affirmation.