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How to Be Romantic without Being Cheesy

There's a fine line between being a hopeless romantic and just being hopeless. These tips will help keep you on this side of cheesy.


  • Step 1: Know your audience Know your partner’s tastes, especially when it comes to public displays of affection. What's hopelessly romantic to one person is mortifyingly cheesy to another.
  • Step 2: Avoid cliches Avoid cliches. If your romantic gesture is a staple of bodice-ripping novels and bad rom-coms, it's probably more cheesy than romantic.
  • Step 3: Don't write a song Unless you're a professional singer/songwriter, don't write your love a song. Insipid lyrics, out-of-tune singing, one-note guitar strumming -- they haven't got time for the cheese.
  • Step 4: Put your love in words Do try your hand at writing your sweetie a love letter -- on real paper. To make it romantic without being cheesy, keep it simple and straightforward. Don't compare their lips to rubies or their eyes to diamonds; just tell them honestly why you love them.
  • TIP: If you write them a love poem, make sure it doesn't rhyme.
  • Step 5: Treat them like a grown-up When it comes to gifts, treat your lover like a grown-up. If the present is something a 5-year-old would enjoy, it's cheesy, not romantic.
  • Step 6: Do something nice Do something nice for them that makes their day a little brighter or their life a little easier. Sometimes, just being kind is the most romantic gesture of all.
  • FACT: Honolulu was voted the most romantic city in the United States, and Dallas/Forth Worth was voted the least romantic.

You Will Need

  • Insight
  • Clichu00e9 avoidance
  • Writing skills
  • Act of kindness

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