- Step 1: Allow for grief Allow for a period of grief. A miscarriage is a traumatic event, and it's normal to feel sadness, despair, and even guilt. Give yourself time to work through your feelings.
- TIP: Seek out a professional counselor if you can't move past your feelings of depression.
- Step 2: Take time to heal Give your body time to recover from the physical effects of the miscarriage. Depending on how far along you were in your pregnancy, you may experience bleeding for a few weeks, along with lower abdominal pain and breast engorgement. Wait for your doctor's permission to return to your everyday activities.
- TIP: Don't exclude your partner. Although men generally grieve differently than women, give him the opportunity to share his feelings.
- Step 3: Seek out support Seek out support. Don't isolate yourself or keep your pain bottled up. Share your thoughts with your partner and turn to friends and family for comfort. Consider support groups to connect with those who have lost a baby.
- Step 4: Acknowledge the anniversaries Acknowledge the grief on special days, such as Mother's Day or the baby's due date. Remember the day with a special ceremony, such as planting a tree in the baby's honor or spending the day with loved ones.
- Step 5: Wait to try again Wait to try for another baby. Although the desire to create a new life and fill the void left by the lost baby may be intense, doctors generally recommend waiting at least 3 months before attempting to get pregnant again.
- FACT: A pregnancy loss is deemed a miscarriage if it occurs during the first 20 weeks of gestation.
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- Counselor (optional)