My name is Barbara Esses and I do events for a living. I'm Ruthie Hecht; I'm an event planner and I work with and for my mother. We're going to teach you the do's and don'ts for the perfect wedding. Invite the people that you feel very close to, and the people that if you saw them, and you hadn't invited them you would be very embarrassed. Leave off people that you have mot eaten or slept with in the past two years. Which means going out to dinner, visiting their home, they've visited your home, then they absolutely should be invited but if you haven't, then you absolutely don't need to do it. If you have someone from the past that you love and you want to establish a future relationship, great. But if you have no thoughts of having a future relationship with them, then take them right off the list. Each family has to really look at their own family dynamics to decide how much family is invited. I generally, and I love children, I'm a grandmother, I, nothing more than children. But generally children under ten years old unless they're niece or nephew of the bride, should not be included. There aren't any lists that can be written in a very short span of time. Number one, it's not what's in your brain to direct you to write down on paper. And number two, go through it over and over and over because from the time you order the invitations until the time you have to send them out, there's definitely a couple of weak times. And in that time, you should constantly be looking at the list to make sure that you haven't left anybody off and that you aren't getting too many people who don't need to be invited.