Hey guys. My name is Shallon and I'm here to help you with all the questions you might have about love, lust, romance, and everything in between. For more, visit me on twitter @downtownshallon or be sure to check out my website shallononline.com. Ladies and gentleman, it is very important to be a good kisser. If you are a bad kisser whoever it is you are making out with is going to assume you are bad at everything else when it comes to hooking up and you know what they are going to be right. I have very very rarely experienced a bad kisser who is good at anything else, so make good kissing a foundation of your sexual repertoire. But how Shallon how you would say. So would you ask and so I have a cup cake to demonstrate on. Golden rule of kissing is lips are the main course and your tongue is the side dish, think about this. You want more lips and a little bit of tongue. We have all kissed people who are like tongue, tongue, tongue and it is like mouth kissing the cocker spaniel, nobody wants to do that, also make sure that your tongue does not hit the person's mouth before your lips do, so you don't go in like, God that makes my skin crawl just thinking about this, you want lips first, then tongue. Okay, so what kind of tongue is best. I have also kissed people who have just let their tongue flop there like a piece of meat, not sexy. Here is how to know if your tongue is doing what it is supposed to be doing, say this la la la la la, just like that, about that sound, about that speed, la la la la la, the tension that your tongue has is just about that kind of tension you should have when you are kissing someone. If it's too sharp and pointy, it's going to feel like someone is jabbing the inside of their mouth, but if it's too lax then it is going to feel like you are making out with I don't even know what. Something they don't want to make out with, let just leave at that. So, let's put this theories into action, shall we? Okay. The frosting here is your lover's mouth, you don't want to go in too hard, like this, see what that does, did you see what I did to this cup cake with that horrible tongue? That's bad. Nor do you want in too soft, look what I did to myself, neither one of these is acceptable. In any case, someone is getting messed up, the cupcake or my mouth, not good. Ooh, but it is pretty delicious. You know I like kissing this cupcake more than I liked kissing my last 2 boyfriends, true story. So, here is what you should be doing, gently, gently, gently. Kiss, go in, lips, tongue, little bites, oh that's so good, last 5 boyfriends, last 5, this is winning. So, you want to take little nibbles, soft and then get more assorted, not aggressive, you are not trying to conquer someone with your mouth. The best kissers are the ones who match exactly what the other person is doing, so take some notes, let your mouth take the back seat and let the other person lead so that you guys can sort of build a kissing rapport together, got it? Oh I love you, we are going to have a good time.