My name is Barbara Esses and I do events for a living. I'm Ruthie Hecht; I'm an event planner and I work with and for my mother. We're going to teach you the do's and don'ts for the perfect wedding. Planning a big gay wedding is just the same as planning a big straight wedding except you get to have a few more fabulous details. You can definitely have all the traditional elements, the ceremony, the cocktails, the first dance. The two brides can dance with their fathers, the two grooms can dance with their mothers. Anything goes. Just remember, you're still celebrating marriage, so not too many rules change. If you have two grooms, no need to have your bachelor parties together. you can still separate it out and have just as much fun. If you're two men getting married and you both want to wear a tuxedo, don't be too bobbsey twined. Make sure you have a little bit different. Maybe one of you is wearing a white bow tie and one of you is wearing black. Those are some tips on how to plan a gay wedding.