My name is Barbara Esses and I do events for a living. I'm Ruthie Hecht; I'm an event planner and I work with and for my mother. We're going to teach you the do's and don'ts for the perfect wedding. When a wedding runs on time people have a much better time. They don't have to wait for anything. There's no lag time, and it just works for a better evening. It puts people in a better mood. How to run an evening smoothly starts with a few different components. Firstly, the family has to be on time whether it's for the pictures or for the start of the wedding. You have to start it on time. And if everything is on time, then no one gets frazzled. No one is running around saying "how do we get this under control". It is very important to have a captain of the day - the person that is in charge of seeing to it that everything goes according to the way you've planned it and the person who can make a decision in case something has to be substituted or changed. You need to know who the person is. You need to do a run through of the day with that person whether it's from the venue, from the caterer, somebody that you've hired from the outside. But you need to go through a timeline. You need to remember every party takes on the life of its own. So the person who's in charge has to have some say in whether you serve now, whether you don't serve now, keep the music going, take the music off so it has to be someone in which you have the most absolute trust. It should not be a parent. It should not the bride or the groom. You should be in the moment and enjoying the day and work with an outside person so that you'll have a smooth and wonderful wedding.