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Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

Learn if nice guys really finish last from dating coach Rachel DeAlto in this dating tips for guys video from Howcast. Thumbnail: Tony Alter/Flickr

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Alright guys. So everybody wants to know, do the good guys finish last? And I like to equate this with nice guys and frankly, yes. But not because of what you think and there's a way to kind of work around it.

We want a good guy. All women want to have a good guy in their life and they want someone who's nice to them. But we need somebody with a masculine energy. So if you are really in touch with your feminine side and you're just going to kiss our you know what all the time, we're going to lose interest. Because we want somebody to take the lead. You know. Whether you think that you do or you don't, most women expect the guy to be the guy.

So it doesn't mean that you have to be mean it just means that you have to actually take the lead. You know. Be a little aggressive at times, you know, and be just the man in charge. You know. And it typically results in the woman, you know, enjoying your company. So it's not to say that you're going finish last, it's just maybe you need to you know, amp it up a little bit. Take control a little bit more and I think you'll be okay.

Being a nice guy, it doesn't mean that you're going to be a complete pushover. I mean and if you are a complete pushover that's kind of where the problem starts in. So it's all about kind of being a little more aggressive, taking a little bit more control, having a little bit more, you know, cajones, for lack of a better word. Where you actually start to act like, you know, the man in charge. Whether you believe it or not, you know. But we don't want a pushover. We need somebody who can, you know, be a little more, a little more masculine. Because it tends to result in a more balanced relationship. When you got two people that are trying to take control it doesn't work, but at the same time if your girl's, or the girl that you're interested in is really feminine, you know, she wants somebody that can compliment her.

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