Let's talk about your profile for the online dating websites that you're on. This is like your first impression, so you actually have to put a little more effort into it than clicking all the boxes and throwing up a picture.
The first thing, and I can't stress this enough, is you need a current, realistic picture. Which means you need to get one of your friends to take a look at the picture you're putting up there and let you know if it accurately depicts you. Because the biggest complaint is going to be, "Oh my gosh I met this guy, I fell in love with his profile and then I saw him and it was, that's not what you look like." So get the right picture.
The second thing is don't fill your profile of negatives, you know, like I don't want this, I don't want that. You know, try to keep everything positive. People respond to positive people, which means that even if you're not all the time positive put it out in your profile as if you are. Say what you enjoy. Talk about things that you like to do. You know, have some sort of love for life or something that comes across in it. And again, you know what, if you don't trust yourself to write this, have somebody else do it for you or have your friend look at it. Because, it's again, this is your first impression. And people are going to judge you, whether you want it or not. They're going to judge you based on your picture, on what you write, and what you put in those drop downs. So think about it before you do it, stay as positive as possible, and make sure that that picture works.
If you don't trust yourself to write your own profile get somebody to help you. Maybe it's a friend. It's actually a service that I do. All about taking what you really want and spinning it in a positive way. You know. There's a different way to say everything. So, you know, what we do is work with people to try to make them come across as the most positive person possible. So like I said, if you can't do it somebody else can. Just make sure it gets done.