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How Does Porn Affect Relationships?

Learn how porn affects relationships from sex therapist Dr. Megan Fleming in this Howcast video about the psychology of sex and pornography.

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So for the majority of people looking at this I imagine you might be feeling some level porn is impacting your relationship and that is certainly something that I'd be curious whether or not you had a frank conversation with your partner or perhaps you're watching this because you yourself are concerned about your porn use and how might be impacting your arousal or ability to get stimulated by your partner. I think for the majority of couples out there, porn in itself isn't a problem where or there may be a problem think that it's a secret and I think that in a healthy relationship there is a room for masturbation, self-stimulation where porn and a lot of images is part of that but I think unfortunately some couples may have the idea that once in a relationship as if all sexual energy is supposed to be for one's partner and if that is the contract that you both have established then I absolutely understand why porn is problematic because ultimately it feels like a violation of a contract so I think you need to take a step back and ask yourself and your partner whether or not you feel there is any place for porn and if so, what feels like the healthy balance. As long as you both agree that it's an aspect of some pleasure or potential something shared together then I think you can have a healthy place. It's important to realize that for some there is a tipping point where porn is unhealthy because it becomes obsessive, it becomes compulsive and it can not only impact your ability to physically get aroused with your partner but it's certainly can impact the ability to not get bored and really feel themselves present and engaged and excited by what's happening in the moment here now with your partner. If you feel like you're that individual or if you're in that relationship, it's important that you both begin that conversation and ultimately start speaking with a professional who can guide you to determine where will you ultimately decide porn does or doesn't fit into your relationship.

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