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3 Ways Porn Can Affect a Man's Life

Learn how porn can affect a man's life from sex therapist Dr. Megan Fleming in this Howcast video about the psychology of sex and pornography.

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I think for any man watching this, you already know that porn has been a part of your life from pretty much I would say early preteen years to the present. And I think for any women who would be watching this, it's important you realize that porn has probably been a big part of your boyfriend or husband's sex life long before they were ever even interested in partnered experiences. So first I just want to normalize that porn often starts with self-exploration, part of self-stimulation, getting to know your body and masturbation experiences. And that for many they, even when in relationships, still continue to choose from time to time the personal experience to a partnered one. And that that's completely normal. The part I want men looking at this to consider is that your sexuality changes as you age. So when you're in your teens and early 20s, you can probably be masturbating several times a day and it will in no way impact your desire for another experience or a partnered sexual experience. But as men get older and testosterone starts to decline a little bit into your 30s, what you'll notice is that if you actually ejaculate, it may take you awhile. Not only to get another erection, we call that the refractory period, but also just to feel that desire, urge or longing to have another sexual experience. So the part I really want you to get is know yourself. Because if you're one of those men that likes an experience on your own, but you know it then kind of zaps you for a few days and you're not quite into it with your partner, that might be something that you want to reconsider and when you get that feeling, perhaps seek your partner out. Ultimately it's a personal choice but I think that if you find that watching porn and masturbating does interfere or contributes to less interest in your partner, and that she or he may be having frustration over that, then it's certainly something that you'd want to look at.

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