What Do Women Need to Reach Orgasm?

Learn what women need emotionally in order to climax from sex therapist Dr. Megan Fleming in this Howcast video about the psychology of sex.

Transcript

Well I would love to say that there is a formula to bringing your female partner to orgasm, I can only tell you that there are ingredients and that generally, if you put in the right mix of these ingredients she's going to have a wonderful, in fact many wonderful orgasms.

For men sometimes, sex helps them to feel connected but for women usually it's the other way around. The interest to be sexual comes from already feeling that sense of connection with you. So that's your foundation ingredient, is her open and receptive interest that she wants to feel connection and she's interested in sexual stimulation.

From there it's just realizing and having a conversation about what are her turn-ons, because they're both mental and physical. The mental is if she feels your desire, because if she feels you and she knows it's about her and the way that in particular she's turning you on, I can guarantee you that's one of her biggest turn-ons.

From there you want to mix in the physical stimulation. If she's somebody that really like breast caressing? Does she like caressing her lower back, her neck? What are the erogenous zones? Don't just go for the breasts or the genitals or vagina because I often hear from women and it feels like he just wants to go for the gold. And they find it incredibly frustrating.

So really take time to build her arousal because ultimately that's what's going to give her a far more powerful orgasm. And you'll notice when that tension starts to build in her body. Whether she says 'More'., you'll see it verbally or non-verbally. Or perhaps she says 'Don't stop.', and believe me in that moment you better not, you're well on your way to giving her mind blowing orgasms.

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