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How to Understand Sexual Compatibility

Learn about the science of sexual compatibility from sex therapist Dr. Megan Fleming in this Howcast video about the psychology of sex.

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So I love this question about sexual compatibility because people most often start to ask it when they've been in relationship a while, and they are starting to notice that there is more of a discrepancy in terms of desire, interest for frequency or quality of a sexual experience. And what I can say is obviously in the beginning there was some level of compatibility or you wouldn't be here today asking this question. So think back to what used to really turn you on about your partner; what was that initial attraction or chemistry? Because, I think when two people get together, it's kinda like battery charges. You know there needs to be enough kind of intensity or charge there, to even compel you forward to even get into a relationship. So although there are some people who think that it's about a sexual fit, and there's like a better fit for, you know certain partners, I think it really has to do with that initial chemistry that makes you interested in even wanting to become sexual with your partner. And that in time, there are of course challenges to any relationship to keep it hot and to handle any disappointments and frustrations that are bound to come your way. But that ultimately if you continue to focus on the chemistry that brought you together in the first place, you can keep it alive in your relationship throughout the duration.

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