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How to Turn around a Sexless Marriage

Learn how to turn around a sexless marriage from sex therapist Dr. Megan Fleming in this Howcast video.

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So, if you are here watching this video; I imagine one or both of you are pretty frustrated by having been living in a sexless marriage. And the first thing I wanna say is, you know there is a reason that it looks that way. And I think you both have to take a step back and look at; when did you change? When did we first notice that we were no longer interested in having sex? Did it become very scripted, or mechanical? And all of a sudden you begin thinking the sex you are having didn't feel worth having. And for many couples it's because there can be relationship difficulties or frustrations or disappointments that unfortunately are spilling over into the bedroom. So in order to turn it around, I do think you have to take a little bit of time to look back at where did we go off track. Because that really is gonna help you to recognize what was the rupture, the disappointment, the tipping point when it all turned around. So you can address those issues, so that you both recognize that you get one life. And if you are committed to each other and wanna be in this marriage, that you really want to be able to enjoy a relationship, that has the vitality, the feeling of connectedness, the feeling of liveness in your body that you both can have if you choose to reinvestigate and explore the kind of sex life that is open to you. But this isn't for the faint of heart. You really have to put both feet into this and realize this crisis in a sense is also your opportunity. You really wanna get the sense of what is the sex that you really enjoyed having. And if it wasn't in some reason optimal, work out the way talking about what you wanted to try on or explore. So the part that I want you both to get is that what feels like your crisis is also a huge opportunity, that you both can turn this around and create both the marriage and the sex life that you want.

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