I think that the biggest challenge with trying to be happy is that it really sets us up for failure. You know happy, joy, it's an emotion, meaning it's coming and going, there are ups and downs. To put yourself in a position where you feel like you are expected to be happy all of a time is actually counterproductive because it doesn't allow for you to have your natural range of experiences. I think in this case happiness is closely related to being more positive and being more optimistic and that you have a choice in any situation; its not what is happening to you its how you choose to respond to it. And as a coach I'm a big believer that you have to make lemonade and you have to use all of the lemons that life throws at you, all the curve balls that life throws at you and turn it into something that works in your benefit. We all have a core that is happy that tends to get covered up by really challenging life experiences by hurts, by pains, by rejection and by circumstances that we can't move past. So well self medication is an option, it actually just prolongs the pain because the only way out is through. You know you have to feel it to heal it. So if you are self medicating than the next step is to say why and to get support around why you're self medicating so that you can free the happiness that is underneath all of the pain.