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What Do Guys Want in a Relationship?

Learn what guys want in a relationship from relationship expert Jonathon Aslay in this Howcast video about men and love.


Men who want a relationship and are seriously ready for a long term committed relationship are men who tend to court a girl. They are not looking for the quick lay, they are not looking to get into your pants right away. They are looking to get to know you and spend time with you, because they really want something more serious and more deep.

When I wrote my book, “Understand Men Now: The Relationships Men Commit to and Why,” I kind of coined the phrase CAARS. C-A-A-R-S. Men want companionship, they want attention, they want affection, and they want regular sex. This is what most men want in relationship.

Here is what kind of differs for women. Women want kind of the same thing. They want companionship, they want attention, they want regular intimacy but what they also want is security. Most women are looking for where is the relationship going and men are just happy in relationship when they are getting their CAARS, their attention, their affection, their regular sex.

So just remember, that's kind of one of the differences between men. So be patient, your guy’s going to get on the track. If your relationship is six months or longer, chances are he’s nested into the relationship. And if he is happy, and he’s nested, he’s not going anywhere.

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