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How to Flirt Using Body Language

Learn how to flirt using body language in this online flirting lesson from Howcast.


Hunt Etheridge: Um, hi! How you doing?

Rachael DeAlto: Hi.

Hunt: Hi. You, ah, come around here?

Rachael: No.

Hunt: Why not? Like, this is a great place to be. It's a fun, fun area. You don't look like you're having fun.

Rachael: No, I don't really like it here.

Hunt: Well, can I get you a drink or something?

Rachael: I'm good.

Hunt: Really?

Rachael: Yeah, thanks. Anyway.

Hunt: Okay. Yeah.

Rachael: That's what not to do on my part if I was looking to actually be receptive. Let's try it again with body language that would show that we're gonna be receptive to each other.

Hunt: I'd like that.

Rachael: He was a little offended by me.

Hunt: Hello!

Rachael: Hey!

Hunt: Hey, I'm Hunt.

Rachael: Oh, nice to meet you. I'm Rachael.

Hunt: Oh, nice to meet you too. So, you part of this meet up group?

Rachael: I am. I love it! It's so much fun. We do really amazing things together.

Hunt: Yeah.

Rachael: So did you just start it?

Hunt: Yeah. I just joined, I just moved into town.

Rachael: Oh, that's awesome.

Hunt: I don't really know a lot of people so I figured this'd be a good way to meet people.

Rachael: Oh, I'm here for you now!

Hunt: Oh, that's great! That's great!

Rachael: I'll show you around.

Hunt: Um, what are you drinking?

Rachael: Ah, Martini.

Hunt: Oh, can I, may I?

Rachael: Absolutely.

Hunt: Alright. Give me one second.

Rachael: Okay.

Hunt: I'll be right back.

Rachael: So obviously, that is an example of open body language. Where you're facing each other. You're squared off. The toes are pointed towards each other and you're actually using touch to reinforce a positive feeling.

Hunt: Yep. I know there's a lot of eye contact too.

Rachael: Yes. There's smiling.

Hunt: You know, guys don't make as much eye contact as women do.

Rachael: No.

Hunt: But there's nothing more dismissive than kind of speaking over your shoulder.

Rachael: That's terrible.

Hunt: Or when she's talking and looking around. If you feel a connection or you want there to be a connection, the eyes are the window to the soul.

Rachael: Aww. And the other thing that we can talk about is mirroring.

Hunt: Yes.

Rachael: Mirroring is a really easy way to make someone else feel super comfortable with you without even trying. And it's all about so, if I touch your arm, you touch my arm. If I move backwards, you come forwards. It's all about really mirroring between the two parties. A way to make them feel like . . .

Hunt: If she turns around to look at the TV, you know, you turn around and kind of . . .

Rachael: You leave! But, it's just a natural way. It's a subconscious way to let someone else feel really comfortable with the situation. You can even take a drink of your Martini at the same time.

Hunt: Yep, yeah, exactly. And it's part of actual sociology that we want to feel connected. And the quickest way to feel connected is to be accepted and be doing the same things. So, and you'll notice this when someone's interested in you. And it's also a thing that you can consciously do yourself to let the other person know that you're interested. So, how 'bout that drink?

Rachael: Can't wait.

Hunt: May I?

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