Updated:
Original:

What Is a Wingman?

Learn what a wingman is in this Howcast video about flirting.

Transcript

Rachael DeAlto: Wingman and wingwoman are the secret to your dating success.

Hunt Etheridge: Essential.

Rachael: Absolutely. What they are are some. What a wingwoman is is a woman that goes out with you that helps you meet people, helps you approach, and helps you connect with people when you might be a little on the shy side.

Hunt: Yeah.

Rachael: Same thing with a wingman. And yu can mix and match. You could do women and men...

Hunt: Oh, absolutely...

Rachael: You could do men and men. There are all sorts of crazy...

Hunt: I've found, at least for a guy, when he's out with a girl friend as a wingwoman it is the absolute best way to meet a woman. Because, a potential date looks at this guy. Oh, another woman...

Rachael: They're vetting...

Hunt: ...likes this guy. Exactly, they're vetting. He's good enough that this woman is standing by him. So, immediately you know probably not a serial killer, probably not a creep. And immediately, this woman now is curious as to what this guy has that makes this woman, you know, interested to be around him.

Rachael: Yeah. And the same thing even if you're going out with two guys or two girls. It's fine, because you can have that fun and flirty combo. And hat's the thing. A wingwoman or a wingman has to be fun. They have to be...

Hunt: Outgoing...

Rachael: ...outgoing. They can't be the wallflower. You can't be bringing on a specialty case...

Hunt: Yeah.

Rachael: ...of like, let's get you out of the house type of thing. That's not your wingwoman. That's something else. But, this is somebody who's going to be an extrovert for you and with you and have your back.

Hunt: My friends used to call me the lure.

Rachael: The lure?

Hunt: Because they'd throw me into a group of girls and I'd go talk to them. Then I'd be like, oh, my friends are back over here...

Rachael: Your fishing hole.

Hunt: ...then we'd all come back. Absolutely. Any time you're out with somebody that's a friend, and that friend is interesting, too, it lets the person know that this other person deserves this friend. They're good enough to have these types of people surrounding them.

Rachael: Yep. So, say there was a woman over there. We're out, and I'm your wingwoman. I'm going to go up to her and be like, hey, what're you drinking there. Oh my gosh, I need to try that. I'm going to order that. Hold on a second. Oh, this is my friend Hunt.

Hunt: Oh, have you met Hunt? Oh, hey, how're you doing.

Rachael: Hey.

Hunt: How did you guys meet. Oh, we went to college together, you know. It was great. Immediately she knows we've got, and also that's the important thing. If you go out with a female wingwoman, establish that you aren't together.

Rachael: Together. That's the biggest thing...

Hunt: Most of the time you do that with body language, but some people don't get it.

Rachael: Yeah. Yeah. you need to not be touchy feely. But, for the most part, having that counterpart being of the opposite sex can make a difference.

Hunt: I think being the opposite sex is the best way, a girl with a guy...

Rachael: ...For the guy...

Hunt: . . . a guy with a girl out, sometimes...

Rachael: Do you think with a girl that having a guy wingman is good?

Hunt: Well, I think it can at least bring the energy. Because I can go up and talk to a guy about sports or something like that, too.

Rachael: You're like, hey, did you meet my friend.

Hunt: Yeah, and then introduce. Then kind of do the slow recede back.

Rachael: We are so going out.

Hunt: Let's do this.

Popular Categories