Hi, I'm Faye de Muyshondt with social sklz, here to teach you how to apologize. Most likely your mom or your dad told you the importance of apologizing, but so often when people apologize, it doesn't come across as very genuine. So, number one, as you apologize, make sure that you understand what you did wrong and if you don't, ask, ask what you did wrong. Number two, make sure that you really show remorse. So rather than saying, "I'm sorry if you feel that way. I'm sorry, but", instead own the responsibility for your apologies.
So, "I'm sorry that I hurt you." Is a lot more effective than, "I'm sorry if I hurt you." So if and but do not along in an apology. Number three, offer to improve or to stop doing it, or offer to make changes and to make the situation better. It really helps in making the apology a lot more genuine and a lot more meaningful and if you're the one doing the apologizing, it's not the opportunity to bring up all the past and so many other things that someone did to you. Stick to the matter at hand, stick to the apology at hand, and what specifically, you are apologizing about. And finally, bring in a little bit of self-deprecating humor, if you can. A little bit of humor goes a long way in a really sticky situation. So, those are a few tips to help you make an effective apology.