Whether you’re the family suck-up or the family, uh, screw-up, there are bound to be complications with your sibs.
Step 1: Relax Relax! It’s perfectly normal to feel resentment toward other people, whether it’s a Hollywood star you don’t even know or a sibling you love.
Step 2: Set your own standards Set your own standards for success. Who cares that your sister is an accomplished black belt? You can be an accomplished pacifist.
Step 3: Recognize your talents Recognize your own talents. If you take the time to think about it, there are probably tons of things you can do better than your sibling. Go ahead, make a list. (And, yes, air guitar counts.)
TIP: When your sibling succeeds at something, congratulate her (even if you feel like you’re going to vomit). The more you do it, the easier it will become. Eventually, you may find you actually mean it.
Step 4: Find something in common Find a hobby you can share where there’s no competition involved. Bird watching, anyone?
TIP: When your sibling tries to bait you, don’t play along. For example, stop engaging in tiresome debates about whom Mom loves best.
Step 5: Give yourself credit Give yourself credit for handling sibling rivalry as well as you have. After all, the same can’t be said of Cain and Abel.
FACT: On personality tests, first-born siblings tend to be more responsible, but later-born siblings score higher on being agreeable.