We save our good behavior for strangers, but can indulge in poor behavior with our family. Break the cycle and find peace in your family with these techniques.
- Step 1: Offer to compromise rather than accuse someone with demeaning words. Families are supposed to be a safe haven for their members.
- Step 2: Accept that you don't have all the answers. You're only one person and peace depends on everyone's participation. If your family can agree to work together toward the goal of peace, your teamwork can go a long way!
- FACT: The legendary Hatfield and McCoy descendants met for the first time to hold a 3-day reunion in Pikeville, Kentucky, in 2000, to commemorate the end of the famous family feud 100 years earlier.
- Step 3: Show manners and thank others for their opinions and unsolicited -- or even offensive -- advice at a family gathering.
- Step 4: Consider that what upsets you may not affect those around you. Little messes and lights left on are not personal affronts. Ask everyone to handle their own clutter out of regard for others' living areas and don't kill yourself trying to fix everything.
- TIP: Remember that you can only control your own behavior -- not your family members'.
- Step 5: Model kindness. Set the firm rules and guidance that children need, stated clearly and practiced consistently. Respect children as people.
- TIP: Children learn to respect others by receiving respect themselves.
- Step 6: Maintain open communication, and listen rather than passing judgment. Talking this way keeps the focus on the love among everyone. No one needs to yell.