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How to Ask for a Job from Friends and Family

Looking for a job? Look to your network to find a position with people you trust.


  • Step 1: Support friends and family in finding jobs wherever you can, even if you're out of work. If you stumble upon opportunities unsuited for you, lend a hand to your network and what goes around will come around. It feels good to help others.
  • Step 2: Send thank you notes, staying in touch after someone has responded, and checking back. Most people don't think of job leads immediately after being asked and, days later when they do, often assume the searcher has already found something. Don't fall through the cracks.
  • FACT: Small businesses are responsible for 60 percent of the nation's employment and 78 percent of new jobs.
  • Step 3: Inquire if your friends' and families' current employers are still hiring. Ask for their recommendation. Often, employers offer referral bonuses to employees for attracting new talent.
  • Step 4: Ask your fellow graduates, friends, and classmates who have found jobs if they had to turn down any offers. Follow up on those opportunities, letting them know and asking if they can put in a word for you.
  • Step 5: Begin contacting people from your list, and meet with them face to face. People like to use their expertise to help and direct others. Be their willing subject, let them talk, and ask plenty of questions.
  • TIP: Make small talk before bringing up the subject of your job hunt. Ask them how they're doing, and be honestly interested in the answer.
  • Step 6: Volunteer on church or community-giving projects with friends or family, and listen closely to conversations. There are jobs all around, and you often don't have to ask so much as listen to get new ideas.
  • Step 7: Write out names of friends and family members without regard to status, location, history, company, field, or position. Then, prioritize them according to your comfort level.

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