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How To Be More Outgoing

Come out of your shell and open the door to greater social and business success.


  • Step 1: Observe the responses you get from others to see which approaches work and which don’t. Be objective and honest with yourself.
  • Step 2: Pay attention to the social butterflies around you. Observe their interactions with others and emulate their behavior.
  • FACT: Introverts account for 25 percent of the general population and 60 percent of the gifted population.
  • TIP: Let the other person talk three times as much as you do.
  • Step 3: Actively listen. At the end of the conversation, exchange phone numbers or e-mail addresses and keep in touch.
  • Step 4: Build confidence by engaging in social situations on a regular basis. Practicing your social skills will make you feel more comfortable and your participation will flow more easily.
  • TIP: Branch out slowly. Start with social situations you’re comfortable with and gradually add new, less familiar ones.
  • Step 5: Make eye contact with someone new, smile, and add a simple “Hi” or “How are you?” to spark a conversation. Get their name right away and use it a few times in the conversation.
  • Step 6: Improve your ability to make small talk. Bone up on current events and the arts by reading newspapers, magazines, and internet articles.

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