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How to Call Off Your Wedding

If you've decided not to go through with your wedding, follow this advice to let your friends and family know about the cancellation in the most polite, least embarrassing way possible.


  • Step 1: Immediately contact all the vendors you contracted to supply transportation, flowers, and other wedding services. Know that it may be too late to get a refund and you may end up paying for the entire amount.
  • Step 2: Return any gifts that you have received. This includes engagement, shower, and wedding presents. Return any money that has been sent also. It is appropriate, however, to keep any gifts you've already used such as cooking utensils or bath towels.
  • FACT: As of 2010, the average age of a bride in the United States was 25.3 years old.
  • Step 3: Post a note on your wedding website about the cancellation. It should read the same as the written note.
  • TIP: Ask for help from family and friends and divide up the guest list.
  • TIP: It is not necessary to include an explanation. "Mr. and Mrs. John Doe announce that the marriage of their daughter Mary Jane to to Bob Smith will not take place" is sufficient.
  • Step 4: Call the guests if there is not time to send a written note before the wedding day. It is still proper to follow up with a note even if it arrives after the planned event.
  • Step 5: Send a printed note to everyone on the guest list if the invitations have already been sent. The note should include the names of the bride, groom, host, and that the wedding has been canceled.

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