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How To Date a Cougar

Ready to bag your own Mrs. Robinson? To hunt a cougar, you've got to become the prey.


  • Step 1: Decide where the romance is headed. Do you have a connection, or are you just a booty call? Either way, be honest with yourself and her to prevent any hurtful misunderstandings later.
  • TIP: Respect her family's boundaries. Striving too hard for a friendship with siblings or kids may alienate them.
  • Step 2: Enjoy your new relationship! Whether you're in love or just rocking boy-toy status, have fun learning from the wisdom and experience of your older lover.
  • FACT: A Canadian hockey team originated the term "cougar" in the late 1980s.
  • Step 3: Be prepared for a workout in the bedroom. Cougars are in their sexual prime – they know exactly what they want and they aren't afraid to go after it. Follow her lead and do your best to keep up.
  • TIP: When flirting with a cougar, playing hard to get hurts your chances. Cougars enjoy the kill, not the chase.
  • Step 4: Type "cougar dating" into any search engine to find a targeted dating site. You can also join a conventional dating site with forums and groups devoted to dating cougars.
  • TIP: To meet cougars in their natural habitat, go to a "cougar bar," or try frequenting an upscale hotel bar.
  • Step 5: Project confidence and maturity. As a rule cougars are worldly, experienced, and more sophisticated than younger women. Trying to impress one with stories about your frat brothers will make you seem childish. Shower her with compliments, listen to what she has to say, and ask questions to move the conversation forward.
  • Step 6: Learn to identify the species. A cougar is a woman in her forties, or older, who dates significantly younger men. Cougars enjoy the nightlife, wear revealing, sometimes slightly out-of-date clothing, and are highly skilled at flirting.

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