Parents are usually strict with the intention of protecting you. With a little help, you can get them to loosen the reigns.
- TIP: Don't try to pull a fast one on your parents. You'll probably get caught and, since they're strict, it probably won't be worth the consequences.
- Step 1: Talk to a counselor at school or ask your parents about professional counseling. Just bringing it up may help them see the seriousness of the situation.
- FACT: Parents who were raised in disruptive families often see that form of interaction as a model and continue this pattern with their children.
- Step 2: Understand the consequences you will face if you break the rules.
- Step 3: Stay calm if you disagree with the rules and explain why you think it is unfair.
- Step 4: Have a serious discussion with your parents and give specific examples of what you consider to be too strict. Listen and try to understand their defenses.
- TIP: Don't be confrontational – you'll only make matters worse.
- Step 5: Go over what their rules and expectations are to make sure everyone's on the same page.
- Step 6: Think about your behavior. Honestly evaluate whether your parents are really being too strict and consider the possibility that you may need to make behavioral adjustments.