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How To Find Your Birth Parents

If you want to find out who your biological parents are, be assured that there are many resources available.


  • Step 1: Search for your birth parents once you have collected enough identifying information, such as full or partial names, dates of birth, or former addresses. Telephone directories and public records are good places to start.
  • Step 2: If your own efforts come up short, hire a reputable private investigator to help you search. Good luck!
  • FACT: According to a national survey, 26 percent of childless women between the ages of 40 and 44 who have ever used infertility services have adopted a child.
  • Step 3: Submit your information to a search registry that assists people seeking to connect with family members they've been separated from.
  • TIP: Rules governing access to these records vary from state to state, so learn the relevant laws for the geographic area you are searching.
  • Step 4: Interview your adoptive parents, if they are amenable, to glean as much detail as possible about your birth, your birth parents, and the adoption proceedings
  • Step 5: Start a journal to record all of the information that your search uncovers. Remember that no detail is too small to note, and it may prove useful at some point in your search.
  • Step 6: Gather official documents, such as your amended birth certificate and your adoption case file, from the hospital where you were born, the adoption agency that handled your case, or the county or state court that approved your adoption.
  • Step 7: Learn everything you can about the process of searching for birth parents by doing research online and by talking to other adoptees who have been down this road.

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