Protect your children while filing for sole custody by practicing maturity, communication, and cooperation.
- Step 1: Place the kids' health, safety, and happiness ahead of everything and don't use them to hurt the other parent. Judges consider emotional, social, moral, and educational needs, not personal opinions about an estranged partner.
- Step 2: Facilitate the other parent's right to see and be with the children, and by extension the kids' need to be with that parent. Your compassion and willingness to cooperate will help you reach your goal, and help your children to adjust more smoothly to their new situation.
- FACT: Divorce rates in the United States reached their highest peak in 1979, at 22.8 divorces for every 1,000 married women.
- TIP: Custody courts are rarely happy about parents who change jobs a lot, so hang on to what you have unless it's a promotion that achieves further security and stability.
- Step 3: Restructure your work schedule to accommodate the kids' need for quality time. Show the stability and consistency that suggest appropriate supervision kids need. Avoid changing jobs while you're under review.
- Step 4: File a complaint through the attorney, according to the laws of the state, declaring your desire for sole custody.
- TIP: Without compelling evidence to dissuade the court, most decisions handed down will favor parents having joint legal custody.
- Step 5: Acquire comparable or better housing than the children have had until now, in a safe neighborhood within a reputable school district. The quality of their lives must be maintained or improved for sole custody to be considered.
- Step 6: Hire a custody attorney with long experience and no emotional investment in the case. Network with other divorced parents or check out internet sites that evaluate attorney rates to determine which has the best record and is in your price range.