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How to Have a Conversation about Your Relationship Status

If you've been seeing each other for a few months and you still don't know where you stand, it's time for a talk. Whether the news is good or bad, you'll never know what's going on if you don't finally have that conversation about your relationship status.


  • Step 1: If your partner responds by saying they're not ready to discuss your relationship status, ask yourself how long you're willing to wait. Everyone deserves to date someone who is equally invested in the relationship.
  • FACT: Since the U.S. Census started keeping track in the 1890s, the median marrying age in the U.S. as of 2006 was the oldest it had ever been -- nearly 26 years old for women, and 28 for men.
  • Step 2: Admit out loud that you're afraid of what you might find out. Then, listen to what they have to say without judging or interrupting them.
  • TIP: Don't scare them off by holding them solely responsible for deciding where the relationship is going. Tell them where you think it's going.
  • Step 3: Prepare yourself for the possibility that your partner is not ready to be exclusive or to call you their boyfriend or girlfriend. Decide in advance whether you would still want to date them if you were to find out that that was the case.
  • Step 4: Start the conversation off by being honest. Tell them you'd like to know where things stand because you have reached a point where you're ready to start dating them exclusively.
  • Step 5: Before you bring up your status, realize that you have ever right to ask whether or not you're in an exclusive relationship. It's important for both of you to know whether you're on the same page.

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